So how do I begin this tale? I promised myself I must be honest. I tried to consider a better word than douchebag. I even consulted the thesaurus for a more suitable substitute. It turns out there is no substitute deserving of these two men. I like guys, truly, I do. It is usually what gets me in trouble; this is no kind of man-hating rant. I am going to just tell the story of an attempt to meet and date a guy who seemed perfectly awesome, then turned into a potential scam. A perfect mirage. The second experience I had (douchebag #2 for the lack of a better word) was a different animal altogether. I will try to share both with the utmost of honesty and anonymity, all at the same time. Everything is true. Everything is my actual experience.
In truth, these events happened a bit ago (in the last 12 months), but I am wanting to post the most honest experiences and here they are!
I am hoping that women my age all around this planet will have better luck than I did with these two! I am almost positive that these two are so unique, one could not have any other type of luck. Like I said, I will leave out names and overly identifying information, but some information defines my experience and must not be left out. With Mr. Cairo, I felt that as a scam and facade, his “name” was unsearchable, unprovable. I feel that sharing the name he gave me may help others avoid any time spent with him, so I will share that one ONLY!
From time to time, I just may have to quote Dorothy Parker. I may or not believe it, but chances are, I probably love it! Here we go:
Men seldom make passes at girls who wear glasses.
What do you think guys?
They say a dog is a man’s best friend, but perhaps, sometimes, one could also say that a woman’s best man is a dog. Sometimes I think that’s true for me.
These jeans are only six years old, but they look older than they are. I bought them in 2010 as I was leaving a particularly difficult chapter in my life. I was living in Florida and had a shopping bag full of clothes, but only tank tops and shorts. My mother came down to help me with some personal things (like finding a divorce attorney, obtaining temporary housing, etc). My mom and I knew I was headed toward a very difficult transition in my life. I had spent a few days at a friend’s place after being forced to leave my home where I lived for 9 months. She gave us a few nights in a gorgeous hotel in Sarasota. She took me to the mall to get a few things. Most of my things would be in a locked storage center till I saved money to get my own place in Denver (where I belonged). This pair of jeans was one of the few items of clothes I picked out. I brought them back to Denver with me. I did have a chance to grab more clothes, but these jeans made the move with me.
Six years later: I am not a sentimental person as far as material goods go. So why with all these rips and tattered seams am I holding on to these jeans? If I thought it was because I never worked through the events that went down in Florida before I left, that would be easy. But I did that, thoroughly. I wish it was as easy as that. I went through Hell toward the end in Florida..and even for the first several years after I left that house in September 2010. I am pretty much on the other side now. I am very good at purging “stuff” that doesn’t fit, torn, stained, even 25-year-old college t-shirts.
So what’s with the jeans??? Should I hold on to them since they are pretty cool and they fit me perfectly and just release the emotional baggage attached? Or do I pitch them in the trash?
I am starting this blog today. I am so excited to share with everyone random experiences that I have had as of late and I am pretty sure we can all relate . I mean, unless you are living off the grid, on your own, with no interaction with any living thing, you probably have a relationship of some sort. Right? If you have a relationship, even one, even with your beloved pet, you are totally in the right place!
I plan on blogging a lot and sharing my experience and hope that there’s tons of good out there, even if we have to fish through lots of nonsense and lies to find the real deal!
See you soon & comment on my page with any questions and comments!