Man-free zone: 90 day trial period

So its been a while. I am so sorry, but the holiday season was crazy busy and I should have written more…..but, I didn’t and I apologize. Here’s the deal: Something very bizarre occurred on New Year’s Eve. This has never happened to me before, so I am going to share it. It’s a new one, even for me!

So New Year’s Eve. I headed out with one of my close friends and my date. He’s someone I went out with twice last year and totally flaked on me then. I thought we had great chemistry, so when we reconnected on Bumble, I thought I would take a chance and see what happens. In the week before we met, he was back east for Christmas. We texted; he even called once, which surprised me. Signals were strong for a good reunion. He said he was ready to date. He said that he’d really like to see me again So, here we go.

We met up at my house and headed out for dinner and met up with a mutual friend. From there we headed out to a bar with a huge New Years Eve party. The mutual friend got us a table (table service was pricey, yes!!) and we all sat there and hung out for about an hour. We took selfies. We drank. We were having fun. I thought. I was holding my date’s cell phone in my purse at his request. Then he asked to take a selfie off us. Then he just took back his phone. Moments later, he gave me a kiss and said he’d be right back. Just going to the restroom he had said. I should have seen it coming (with the taking back of the phone), but I didn’t. He had kissed me and gone out for a smoke 30 min before that, so I really didn’t think anything of it

Twenty minutes later, I started to wonder what’s going on. I texted him to see what was going on. Then I told my friend I hadn’t seen him and that’s when we checked (for some reason) the parking lot. His truck was gone. He left. He fucking left. I was shocked ,I was upset. I was livid. I started texting him and asked how he could do that to me after everything he had recently said. The texts came back as text messages instead of IMessages that go between two iPhones. He either turned off his phone or more likely, just blocked me. Then I checked my Bumble account (he was a match up to that night-I had looked at his profile before he came over). He deleted my profile. You can tell those things on Bumble. I kept wondering why he just left with no warning, no reason. He could have said “Hey, I’m going to just bail. I am not into this.” Something. But no. Instead, I got nothing. I ended up having a decent night, fueled by vodka cranberries and good friends.

It was that week that I decided that I need to take a break from dating.I have a membership to a matchmaking service I paid way too much for, so I will go on dates from that group. I’m already way invested. For everything else though? I deleted my profile off three different apps and deleted those apps off my iPhone. I know I need to spend that time differently, at least for the next 90 days. Then I will see where I am.

In these 90 days, I want to work on blogging more frequently, working out, getting back to a healthy lifestyle: eating less and more healthfully and less alcohol. I don’t drink a lot of alcohol, but I would like to cut back the amount and frequency even so. Because I won’t be likely to have any relationship posts (unless matchmaking date takes my breath away), I am going to focus more on my lifestyle and fitness posts.

Please join me on my journey and drop a comment if you would, if you have any advice or an anecdote to add.

What I’m listening to: Amy Winehouse-Back to Black.

Stay tuned!

Author: Alyssa

I blog on brilliantdistraction.com about relationships, friendships, and the art of genuine integrity and character! Come visit me!

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