Okay, so I think the healthiest thing I can attempt to do is to NOT change the process. I realize that’s probably where my problems all started in the past. I always rushed it along, plowed through the slow beginnings and BAM! Sabotage. And oops, I did it again! So, that’s not going to happen this time. I have learned time and time again that change and new paths can be uncomfortable. I know they are. I hate that! But if the process dictates that I need to take one step at a time, respecting my own space and the guy’s, then that IS exactly what I will do.
So you say the new part of any relationship is the exciting part? The butterflies in my stomach part? The never knowing what you’ll learn part? Well, exciting is not my strong suit in matters of the heart. I am not an adrenaline junkie and with a tad of anxiety (be quiet those friends who know me!), this has been by far the most difficult part. I want to get to the part where we are comfortable and routine. Where we know what the other wants, needs. What? What did you say? I need to be patient? Funny, I keep hearing that in my head, too!
So if you have to be patient and slow to create something more lasting and less fleeting, then that’s exactly what I will do.
Be patient people! It seems to be the way to go with these adult, grown up relationship deals!